Self-Avoider or Advocator? That’s the Question!

Fellow FIT BFFs, I have a confession to make. I have a ridiculous tendency to ignore my basic needs; do any of you relate?

Here’s an example…I’ve been struggling with knee issues for 8 months. After cortisone and physical therapy didn’t solve my issues, rather than pursue further care, I settled by overlooking the pain, limitations and frustrations. Day after day, I allowed this to continue by not making its resolution a priority. Although it was keeping me from activities I’ve desperately missed (RUNNING), I simply ignored it. Now how ridiculous is that?!?

If this was my husband or either of my kids, I’d be on it! Why do I still struggle with this idea? Why did I put me off for so long? After messaging a friend over the weekend, I realized it was time to address this. Of course he was right. What the heck was I afraid of? Yeah…I won’t even go there haha!

So yesterday I called Sports Med and made myself an appointment. But it isn’t for another few weeks. I needed relief now…more relief than icing can provide. I looked at my shoes and realized I’d been putting myself off in that department too. There was nothing left to do but get to the running store!

It’s been quite a while since I’ve had my gait analyzed, and was kind of surprised to find I needed an entirely different type of shoe. Mallory, the shoe guru at TerraLoco had me try a couple options and I knew the instant I put these Hokas on that I’d found the ones!

My cat completely agreed with my choice the minute I got them home…oh, Spanky!

I could hardly wait to get to the gym this morning to get my new kicks on the track. And do you know what? Although my older shoes still, theoretically, had many more miles to go, my new ones felt a hundred times more supportive!

I guess I took a step in the right direction, who doesn’t want dynamic stability? Ha!

I’m actually looking forward to that Sports Med appointment because with today’s diminished pain, I’m already happier…think of what no pain will do for me!

While I was at this self-advocacy thing, I decided to give my comfort zone another square kick in the behind. Following last year’s multiple episodes of mammogram/biopsy/surgery drama, I realized it was time for me to make my annual date with the boob-smasher…yikes!

Although this was the very last thing I wanted to do, I picked up the phone and scheduled that too. Why give it any more energy or power than it deserves…time to just get er done!

Friends, can you relate? Are you a self-avoider or advocator? Is there something important you need to deal with that you’ve been putting off? It’s time to treat yourself at least as well as your loved ones. And if I can do it, so can you. It’s just one more way we can all put our Best Foot Forward!

Don’t Forget to Love YOU!

Happy Valentine’s Day, fellow FIT BFFs! It’s kind of like any other day around here for me; I’m in love with an amazing guy. He’s loved me at my worst and supported me toward my best. I don’t know where I’d be today without him, but of one thing I’m very sure…I’m blessed.

I know this day is difficult for many. For some, it’s a yearly reminder they’ve yet to find the one. For others, it holds pain of past relationships. Many are reminded of loved ones that they’ve lost. And still others are suffering the effects of loving others so completely that they’ve neglected themselves.

Many put so much passion and energy into our significant other, our children or others, that there’s nothing left for ourselves. I’ve been there, and although I thought that was my responsibility as a wife and mother, it left me ingnored, overlooked. At the risk of sounding selfish, it has taken me several years to realize I deserve at least as much of my attention as I give anyone else. I mean if you don’t take care of yourself, who will?

I encourage you to devote a few moments today (and every day) to administer some self love. Get yourself in front of a mirror and look lovingly into your eyes. It may seem awkward at first, but that just means you need to get reacquainted. Smile! No, really…SMILE! If you are kind to others, you certainly deserve that same kindness, so it’s time to tell yourself some important things. Choose a few or all of these self affirmations or others of your choice (but keep it positive!!!) and tell that lovely person in the mirror…

  • I accept myself unconditionally.
  • I am beautiful.
  • I am strong.
  • I believe in me.
  • I am important.
  • I deserve happiness.
  • I am talented.
  • I am capable of accomplishing my dreams.
  • I am worthy of success.
  • I can do anything.
  • I am loved.

Again, this may feel strange at first, but that just means you need to talk to that wonderful person much more often! Take this strategy with you. Anytime you need a pick-me-up, put these affirmations to work. Repeat them in your mind and heart again and again. Choose the ones that resonate with you and convince yourself you mean them.

We all deserve to be loved, Friends, not just today, but everyday. Remember to treat yourself at least as well as others around you, then let that love shine! One more way we can all put our Best Foot Forward!

 

Finding My Joy

Friends, those of you who’ve met me more recently would be surprised to know, it wasn’t long ago I was in a rather dark place. I was overweight, overscheduled, overwhelmed. I fell for the perfectionist trap in so many aspects of my life. When I often fell short, I dug myself deeper into a sense of failure. Despair.

I made it my mission to be in control of situations in an attempt to make everyone else happy. It was an exhausting existence. One which consumed me with worry…suffocating every chance for personal fulfillment. See, in living in this manner, I unknowingly left myself out of the equation time and again. If you had asked me what my hopes and dreams were, I couldn’t give you an answer because I was running the program, going through motions that never made sense but seemed expected. It was just what the women in my family had done for generations. In trying to measure up to certain standards, I found myself constantly falling short.

How did I get to this place? I had the love of family and friends…the support was always right there for the asking. But I was missing the integral puzzle piece to my wholeness…ME.

I’d become so caught up in the frantic pace of pleasing others, attempting to meet everyone else’s needs, I forgot myself. Ignored me. It has taken me 4 1/2 years to shift my focus from looking away to looking within. At first it felt terribly self-centered, but wasn’t that the point? Don’t we all need to meet our own needs first in order to be of any help to others? YES!

I admit, this was a terrifying concept at first, because putting myself at the top of my list of priorities negated everything I thought I knew. Yup, this was a scary place. But, little by little, I’ve chipped away at the senseless expectations in my head, jumped clear from my comfort zone, again and again, to create a profound sculpture of a healthier, happier me.

I’m no longer smothered by worry or expectation. I’m trying new things almost daily to point me toward my life purpose. I’m not only able to dream again, I’m living those dreams! And the result? Contentment. Exhilaration. Pure JOY! These are great feelings to take into the new year.

Friends, set aside some quiet time this week to focus on YOU…one more way to put your Best Foot Forward