Just the Beginning…52 Fridays!

Friends, I am embarking on a bold new year-long adventure today! I’ve decided to walk down my unique path of self discovery.

But rather than keep this to myself, I thought I’d invite you all to join me. There is no need to sign up…just show up every Friday in 2018. If you miss one here or there, no sweat, do what you can. I’m calling this exploration 52 Fridays. Work on it right away, or wait for the weekend; make it something to savor.

All you need is a blank journal or notebook. That’s all! But you may choose to have your favorite pen, beverage (wine is fine…not judging and it may help!), and fuzzy socks are always cozy lol! Note: you may want to place yourself in a quiet, interruption-free zone.

So how well do you know your inner self? I mean really know who you are deep down, and what makes you tick? Here’s what we’ll do. Start each week with a couple deep breaths to calm and center yourself.

I will provide a simple quote designed to encourage you to do a little digging below the surface. Read the quote a couple times, sit with it a while. Close your eyes and breathe the words in and out. When thoughts pop up, run with them. Spend just 5-10 minutes ingesting the idea and letting whatever comes to mind pour out onto your page.

If you are anything like me, you’ll often be astounded by what you’ve written. And that, my friends, is self discovery! Once you delve within, you can unleash all sorts of new feelings…happiness, clarity, joy, fulfillment and, perhaps, enlightenment!

Are you ready to get started?

Jot the quote down at the top of your page and consider what you want out of 2018 or beyond. Don’t limit yourself. Don’t hold back. You are all set to begin finding where this journey might take you!

Now if you’ll excuse me, I’m grabbing my favorite Paper Mate pen and my journal…here goes!


Finding My Joy

Friends, those of you who’ve met me more recently would be surprised to know, it wasn’t long ago I was in a rather dark place. I was overweight, overscheduled, overwhelmed. I fell for the perfectionist trap in so many aspects of my life. When I often fell short, I dug myself deeper into a sense of failure. Despair.

I made it my mission to be in control of situations in an attempt to make everyone else happy. It was an exhausting existence. One which consumed me with worry…suffocating every chance for personal fulfillment. See, in living in this manner, I unknowingly left myself out of the equation time and again. If you had asked me what my hopes and dreams were, I couldn’t give you an answer because I was running the program, going through motions that never made sense but seemed expected. It was just what the women in my family had done for generations. In trying to measure up to certain standards, I found myself constantly falling short.

How did I get to this place? I had the love of family and friends…the support was always right there for the asking. But I was missing the integral puzzle piece to my wholeness…ME.

I’d become so caught up in the frantic pace of pleasing others, attempting to meet everyone else’s needs, I forgot myself. Ignored me. It has taken me 4 1/2 years to shift my focus from looking away to looking within. At first it felt terribly self-centered, but wasn’t that the point? Don’t we all need to meet our own needs first in order to be of any help to others? YES!

I admit, this was a terrifying concept at first, because putting myself at the top of my list of priorities negated everything I thought I knew. Yup, this was a scary place. But, little by little, I’ve chipped away at the senseless expectations in my head, jumped clear from my comfort zone, again and again, to create a profound sculpture of a healthier, happier me.

I’m no longer smothered by worry or expectation. I’m trying new things almost daily to point me toward my life purpose. I’m not only able to dream again, I’m living those dreams! And the result? Contentment. Exhilaration. Pure JOY! These are great feelings to take into the new year.

Friends, set aside some quiet time this week to focus on YOU…one more way to put your Best Foot Forward